Who are you?

Are we always the same person?

Was I same in 2014 (left) as I was in 2015 (middle)? What about 5 years later in 2020 (right)?

To answer, we must look at the Identity level of the Dilts Pyramid (link )

Each level of the pyramid has it's own questions to examine our ourselves with but critically and what hinges on everything else is our identity.

In Atomic Habits, a book and blog everyone should check out, author James Clear had the following quote I love:

The key to building lasting habits is focusing on creating a new identity first.

The goals and dreams we have for ourselves don't come from using the same operating system we've had all our lives.

Nor has anyone every great always been great.

Champion's aren't born, they're made.

If you want to be a champion, it starts with installing a champion O/S.

As Tony Robbins says "Success leaves clues", all we need to do is look for those clues and add them to our new O/S.

If this sounds like a identity crisis, calm thy farm, this is an identity shift.

A crisis is where your actions conflict with your identity (for example trying for force yourself to change or adopt a new habit without changing an underlying belief about yoursefl)

A shift however, is moving to an identity to fit a behavior you wish to maintain (more details here)

Our lives are defined by our beliefs and convictions of who you are.

Therefore, if we want to make changes in our lives, we must start with the question 'Who are you?'

For myself, I had been running the same identity O/S for a long time and not seeing the results I expected.

Had I kept running it, I was probably on the way to a crisis as my actions were conflicting with my identity.

Yet if want to get what I want, I must adopt a new identity and shift to a new one that aligns to my hopes and dreams

Here is an amazing talk by April Mason that I'd highly recommended of asking who you are:

Cheers,